by Edward Bartram '20
As some of you may know, there is an unspoken culture surrounding the STA Homecoming dance and formal dances in general. Much of this culture is only rumor; unfortunately, there exists some practice to affirm it. The core idea is that if a St. Albans boy asks someone from NCS to a formal dance, and she declines, she won’t be asked by another student. Thus, the result is that if an NCS girl wants to be asked to the dance, she must say yes to whoever asks her first, regardless of whether or not she is comfortable going with that person. This leads to both extremely early asking—almost a “first come first served” idea—and girls saying yes to guys whom they are uncomfortable going with.
Personally, both of my sisters knew about the culture, and I myself was vehemently told not to ask someone for the specific reason that they had already said no to someone else. However, many have never heard of this culture before—when I first discussed it with the prefects, none of them knew it existed. Regardless of how widespread it is or how long it has pervaded the schools for, this seems like as good a time as ever to try and stop it.
So, a gentle reminder: If one of us asks you to future dances, please feel free to turn us down if you do not want to go with us, for any reason. Also, the St. Albans Homecoming Dance is open to all NCS students, so even if you aren’t asked, you should always feel free to come! We’d all love to have you there.
There is a lot going on in today’s news, and I don’t imagine that this article is going to solve much, but we have to start somewhere.